Image Credit: Angela Weiss/Getty ImagesListening to the rage and ugliness and incipient boiling violence of Mel Gibson’s eight-minute-long over-the-phone rant at his former girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva, that was made public Monday on RadarOnline.com, I had a reaction that, I suspect, mirrored that of many others. I was horrified — and I was mesmerized. I cringed, sometimes visibly, at everything he was saying; I also hung on every hideous, seething, bottled-up, paranoid, vengeful word. The sheer drama of the tape is staggering — for eight minutes, it just about stops time. It’s likely that there has never been a public breakdown this awful and spectacular by a modern celebrity. (The conversation in question may technically have been private, but its leaking is just another demonstration that there no longer is a private.) Coming on the heels of the recent Gibson audiotape, with its tangle of threats and racial slurs, and four years after his infamous anti-Semitic rant at police officers during a DUI bust, Monday’s domestic-tantrum-tape-from-hell — with another tape having just leaked — feels, in a scurrilous way, like a deliverance. The full seething anger of Mel Gibson is now on display, for all time, and no one is ever going to be able to put that frothing genie back in the bottle. Mel has made his bed of red-hot nails, and now he’s going to have to lie on it.
Can his career as a movie star, which was already in mid-slide, recover? It’s seriously doubtful. Apart from the sheer shameful stigma of it all (how many people are there left who will now work with him? produce his movies? distribute them? go to see them?), who could Mel Gibson now conceivably portray in a movie? If he tries to play someone smiley and nice, it would look like a bad joke. But if he takes on the role of someone brutish and mean, a walking-tall cauldron of righteous payback — in other words, a typical Mel Gibson character — it will put the scandal of his domestic explosion front and center all over again. A lot of actors have demons, but Mel Gibson’s demons, it’s now clear, are bigger than he is. Those demons now dwarf and engulf him. For all his range as an actor, he has been playing Mad Mel, in one form or another, for more than 30 years (going back to Mad Max, in 1979, and up to and including Edge of Darkness, his thriller from earlier this year). But there’s a difference between doing variations on a big-screen persona, having that persona leak, dangerously, into your public life (as happened to Russell Crowe during his phone-flinging hotel blow-up), and having “Mad Mel” branded forever onto your forehead.
Am I the only one who, as I listened to Gibson’s phone rage, heard echoes of other actors? I don’t mean their private lives; I mean their performances. At full righteous boil, Gibson sounded like some walking, sputtering fractured-man psychodrama from the 1970s — Pacino’s Sonny in Dog Day Afternoon (1975), say, or De Niro’s Jake LaMotta in Raging Bull (1980), railing away at the arm-candy wife who he thought had trampled on his soul. I don’t mean that to be a glib comparison. Life is life, and movies are movies — I get that. But a number of those fabled ’70s films have lasted because they were such memorable studies of the pathology of male rage, and the twisted forms that that rage can take in a society where men feel — rightly or wrongly — that their power has been leeched away.
Throughout the tape, Gibson, like the veteran actor-director he is, orchestrates the situation like a piece of threatening theater, only with himself as the tormented and “victimized” protagonist. For let’s be clear: In every gasping, panting, fulminating breath, in every weirdly articulate epithet-spasm (“You need a f—ing doctor! You need a f—ing brain transplant! You need a f—ing soul!”), Gibson expresses the conviction that he is the one who has been wronged. That’s what makes the tape so perversely gripping: the sick grandeur of Mel Gibson’s self-delusion. On the other end of that line, Gibson, a powerful celebrity, acts out the warped drama of his perceived lack of power, his spiritual impotence, his need to control. It may have been a rant, but like so many rants, it’s really a kind of ultimate personal Method performance — the sound of a Raging Bull gone over-the-top. One of the things we want from actors, or at least that we used to want from them, is to see and hear them bare their souls. But now that we’ve heard the full madness of Mel Gibson’s Method, he may finally have ended up baring too much of his soul to bear.
So what’s your reaction to the Gibson tape? How is hearing it different than reading excerpts from it? And how, if at all, does it influence your feelings about Gibson the actor and filmmaker?








While I have no sympathy for Gibson – props to Oksana for planning ahead /sarcasm
Taping a conversation in private and making it public should never be commended. How would you like it if someone secretly taped a moment in your life when you lost it and had that snippet of your life be portrayed as your character?
Isn’t the definition of character how you act when you think no on is watching?
correction – when you think no one is watching.
Yeah, I’m not defending Gibson for his unhinged behavior. But this is all political theater, and if people are going to use him as an archetype to attack certain groups then I will defend him.
I agree. To have ones private conversation recorded (was Mel informed of the recording taking place) and then made public cannot be the measure of ones character and morals. Especially when in an emotionally heightened state with someone you have an intimate relationship with and child. Who knows what has taken place on either side without a recorder on to document.
So easy to manipulate.
Yep!
No..That is the defenition of integrity.
if someone taped me admitting that i’d punched a woman 2ce in the face while holding a baby, while also threatening to kill them… i’d think they’re within god given self-defense right.
Don’t try having an intelligent conversation about this subject. I tried on another post and was repeatedly accused of beating my wife. (That’s about the level of the conversation — disagree with anything and you advocate domestic violence.) The people around here live in a naive utopia where people in relationships don’t fly off the handle.
If someone threatened me like that, I’d tape further calls for proof. If said person was a multi-millionare A-list celebrity who people might believe over me, I might release it.
He punched her in the mouth and knocked out her teeth while she was holding a baby, he deserves everything he gets.
life:”To have ones private conversation recorded… cannot be the measure of ones character and morals.”
Yes, obviously the best measure of your character is what you do when you think people are watching? What an obscene perspective.
you people defending him as if he was just having an arguement with his girlfriend are probably woman hating wife beaters. Sorry,but there is no excuse for what he said and did. My husband and I have gone rows plenty of times, and yet he manages to not beat me or degrade me or call me names. Those things are not excusable because you are angry, and if you try and say “Well, he was upse with her its her fault” you need a serious reality check, and your wife probably needs a doctor.
Happens all the time….
I have to agree with your comment. In no way am I condoning his behavior…the guy has got some issues…BUT, I find it shady, which I don’t even know if that’s the right word really, that these tapes have been leaked. AND, that she is, and her “camp” consistently saying it’s not them. Just a really bad scene all around.
FYI, it is a part of federal criminal law that, with every phone call you have, you assume the risk that the other person will tape it.
while taping a private conversation isnt right, neither is hitting a pregnant woman. unfortunately i think the recordings had to be done to support her case. otherwise, nobody would have believed her.
How would you like it if someone you loved went completely insane, physically and verbally assaulted you, and called you every name in the book while threatening to kill you, and people accused you of setting him up because you had the presence of mind to get audio proof of his attack, so people would believe you when you asked for help?
No, it isn’t fair to tape someone, and basically manipulate them, but Gibson’s reactions are totally psychotic. I’m sure she didn’t just wake up one day and think “Hmm, maybe I’ll tape Mel today.” Getting this kind of verbal abuse on tape seems like the smart (if premeditated or possibly unfair) thing to do… He did not fly off the handle, he ranted for 8 minutes of sustained hate-speech. Truly crazy.
A moment?????? You should have said multiple moments if you had any interest in accuracy. Anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship definitely recognizes abuse when they see it or hear it . Sad and very disheartening that some people continue to defend the indefensible. Mel Gibson is a bully, movie star status not-withstanding.
I feel he had this coming and should expect she would go to lengths to protect herself. She did this in response to their previous incident. He had hit her in the face & knocked out her teeth while she was holding the child. She had reason to suspect she should take measures to protect herself. I’m glad she did. He should not be able to get away with such behavior.
Yeah, punching her and knocking her teeth out is way over the top. Everyone knows you’re supposed to hit them with phone books so you don’t leave a mark. Or a bag of grapefruit. And NEVER talk about it.
Znachki why shouldn’t she protect herself by recording the rants? He threatened to kill her AND the baby. Shouldn’t that matter more than anything else?
Absolutely. One of the most important things in getting oneself out of a bad domestic violence situation is documenting the behavior of your abuser. There is absolutely no justification for the terrible abuse perpetuated by that man.
She needed proof or no one would believe her. It’s not like he hadn’t done this before – the man has a history of abusive crazy behavior. I absolutley agree with you!
I agree that what he said and allegedly did is wrong. The question I have is why didn’t she report it then instead of waiting to release the tapes when she wanted revenge? It seems like a major set up to me.
Did she set him up and/or bait him into flying off the handle? Maybe, but she didn’t put those vile hateful words in his mouth. And he DID admit to hitting her. However these tapes came about… the fact is, if it is Mel on the tapes, then he deserves to be prosecuted like any other wife beater.
She did report the abuse to the police and sent the tapes to a judge. Don’t know if it is someone in the court system or her thatleaked it.
she did report it, he denied it. thus the tapes were needed to prove her case.
He should do himself and the rest of us a favor and take his ignorant, coward, intolerant presence away forever. I grew up liking the guy and enjoyed his movies since early on. I am done with him and regret spending a single dollar on anything he was involved with. He is rich enough to take a ride on the next shuttle and move out of planet earth. Despicable bully!
Well said manta!
Done with him, too. And I’m sorry my hard-earned money contributed in some miniscule way to his wealth. He’s a sick pig.
I was assigned to work with two Austrailian officers while in Vietnam in 1967. When I asked about visiting thier homeland I was told to forget it because I would not be welcome. I had no idea that blacks were treated worst in Austrailia than in America. Therefore I am not surprised to learn how Mel really feels other ethnic groups.
So now that it appears that the tapes were edited would it not be safe to assume that she could have been doing this for an extended period of time and that she could have cobbled togeether a vision that people would find objectionable. It appears to be a well planned attempt to extort money from him or to ruin his career. She should be prosecuted as should he if he did indeed physically abuse her.
no kidding, planning is nec. if nicole brown simpson had done this, maybe should would still be alive
or at the very very least, OJ would have been convicted. (Obviously, I would prefer Nicole and Ron to still be alive.)
Too many suffer in silence because they believe they have no chance of being believed.
There’s no excuse for domestic violence. Period. Regardless of who you are, or how much money you have, you don’t hit a woman. You definitely don’t hit a woman with a baby in her arms. And threatening to take a bat to her head and bury her in the rose garden?
She’s right, when she says he needs help. He’s unbalanced. And he does need help, the sooner the better.
People please THINK before you post. Good grief.
Geez. Mel has REALLY lost it. He has a severe drinking problem which fuels this kind of behavior. If you listen closely, you can hear movie fans everywhere disposing of his movies.
You hear more hateful and racial remarks from most rap songs than you do with Mel. The guy just have some anger issues.
AND….these were PRIVATE conversations. At least Mel thought they were private. ANYONE in a relationship can get goofy when pissed. Things are said that are regretted later.
BTW – the tapes are inadmissible in court. California REQUIRES that BOTH parties be aware the conversation is being taped. Also, one of the tapes was under seal with the Court. Gee….I wonder how it was released, along with the others, to the media????
“GOOFY?” Catherine, he verbally degraded her with the most hateful, racist language possible, he threatened to have her raped, AND he punched her while she was holding their child.
“Goofy?” Wow.
Yep! He needs to leave Hollyweird and go to some monastery and meditate for a while. Then get back together with Robyn.
Henry, you can’t possibly be serious.
For the record, Henry – I’m black, and *I* don’t approve of what rappers and Rock say, when it comes to race. However, their saying that stuff isn’t a threat to anyone – this man threatening the mother of his child (who I think set him up) and threatening the child, is seriously dangerous.
With all due respect, what rappers say can be a threat to others if the young impressionable minds that hear it accept it as gospel.
I love reading these missives of yours, Owen. Great work.
Owen, this may be a little off-topic, but I just wanted to say that I respect you and I admire you, not only for your excellent reviews and your talents as film critic, but for the fortitude you exhibit when all those faceless “trolls” online berate you and insult you whenever they disagree with one of your critiques. Can’t wait to see your review for Salt! Have a great day!
He’s actually been a hero of mine for a long time. Just sayin. He’s such a talented writer, I’ll read anything he writes. A well-written opinion like his is great, especially when I disagree with it.
Gibson is a pr*ck and deserves any and all flameout he will receive from this incident. While I certainly don’t condone his DUI rant, I could at least wrap my mind around the mad ravings of a drunk. These tapes, however, are a whole different monster. They imply that Gibson has actually put some violent action to his despicable words. I’m done with him.
I do find it funny (or maybe the better word is biased) how Gleiberman gleefully twists the knife on Gibson, yet has gone out of his way to garner sympathy and support for a similar monster, who has made news recently, in Roman Polanski.
Yes, and I always wonder how many of the Polanski supporters would be so tolerant if it were their child who was involved? “Oh, yes, Roman, here’s my junior-high aged daughter. The hottub’s out back”.
wasn’t that basically what the mother did?
Polanski’s case is a whole different sordid kettle of stinky fish.
The Mel tape reminds me of a jacked up version of Alec Baldwin’s rhetoric to his daughter.
However, while Baldwin was frustrated and angry, Mel has shown himself over the past couple years to be seriously unhinged. A lot of therapy is in order.
you speak like Mel Gibson, though…
Fair enough, Owen, though I do think many more people will hear about the rant than actually listen to it, as you did. So perhaps his acting career is not quite so over. Plus the public forgets quickly. If he stars in a legitimately good movie, it will get seen. Also, I love your writing, but your last line here, that Gibson bared too much of his soul to bear, is, as my old English teacher would say, awkward sounding.
Well if he did come back the question still remains what roll could he play? I think maybe a good come back roll, after a few years (and treatment) would be someone making ammends, maybe like as a recovering addict or something. Other suggestions?
Doesn’t matter what role he plays – if he really said those things, he’s dead to me. This from a woman who has nearly every one of his movies – but not for long.
I completely agree with the male rage pathology analysis, thanks so much for the intelligent perspective on such a sordid affair.
Man live mel gibson alone. We all knew he was like this. The man is totally harmless. He was just relieving some steam. Thats all.
Relieving some steam by punching a woman in the face. Sorry that isn’t acceptable from anyone. He’s a vile disgusting scumbag and always has been. Next he will blame her for ruining his reputation.
You hit the nail on the head, Glenn. Typical abusers think it’s their victim’s fault that they lose it. (abusers of *both* genders) It’s never the abuser’s fault.
I think charlie was being ironic, but many have missed the gag. Public schools, man…
Stan, if you’re going to criticize anyone’s education, then take a look at the OP’s sentence structure. “Live” him alone? That’s not even close to “leave”. If he’d said “leve” or “leav” I could see it as just a typo, (we all do that) but there is no “i” in “leave”.
why is everybody simply accepting this woman’s word as truth?
He punched her in the face and you think he is harmless.
And this has been proven????
catherine, he admitted to punching her on tape.
learn to spell. duh
I just love is panting. Totally breathless due to his rant. He sounds like a three year old spoiled brat that didn’t get his way. Hope he salted some money away to live on otherwise look for him flipping burgers at the local McDonalds..
The panting pushed the whole thing over the top. I do not blame her for recording this, otherwise who would have believed it was possible to sound that deranged. If someone did that in a movie, they would be accused of hamming it up.
I know that Mel deserves every ounce of what’s happening to him right now and believe wholeheartedly that the things he’s said are despicable, disgusting, and unbelievably, well, wrong. But I can’t help feel sorry for him as I watch him so publicly unravel and lose absolutely everything of any value in his life. I sincerely hope that be it through the courts or otherwise, he gets the help he so obviously needs and can reform his life in some way – not even as a celebrity, but as a human being.
Men of a certain age. Sheesh.
That’s stupid. Everyone loses it sometimes– is it shameful for someone to get angry?.
I feel sorry for him. He should go back to Robyn.
Robyn deserves better than that waste of space.
Henry why do you keep wishing such misery on Robyn. They did not have a good marriage, just a long one. He and Robyn separated years ago, rumor has it they were not together at the time of his 2006 arrest. Why would anyone want to be with someone who has stated publicly they think you are going to hell.
Who knows how much of this sort of thing Robyn suffered through in silence?
Raven or whatever your name is – he’s done it multiple times and hit his girlfriend while she held their baby. No, it is not “okay” then.
The feeling (anger) is not the problem. The behaviour (put-downs, threats, etc.) is what is shameful.
This is WAY beyond expressing anger. He was clearly out of control–and potentially dangerous. He’s already punched her in the face. If this is just “blowing off steam” to you, I’m left to wonder what kind of life experiences you’ve had that makes this episode seem, well, normal. THIS is not normal.
I have worked with Mel Gibson 19 years back on Bird on a Wire. Back then he was a true gentleman. Waited in line with the crew for lunch, joked around and was very accessible. I truly pity him. He is a man who had everything life has to offer: money, good looks, successful career but still with all of this he feels inadequate, cheated and completely vulnerable. I hope he is able to find some solace in his life. He really has done some amazing work and I hope his road to contentment will be soon. The man is in serious need of solitude and maybe a year sabbatical with the Dali Lama.
Dali Llama won’t help him. He only hangs out with politically correct celebs.
The Dali Lama isn’t a Christian…. Mel wouldn’t be caught dead within 100 yards of the man.
Rather be politically correct then a hateful racist.
The DALAI Lama. Clearly, you know nothing about him.
Mel needs to accept Jesus Christ in his heart. He might be Catholic, but he needs to be forgiven of his sins. The fact that he made the Passion of the Christ is meaningless if he does not accept Christ as his Savior.
@Nina: Yes, because obviously the first teaching of Siddhartha stated that typing and spelling without error is the fastest path to nirvana….
Stop flaming…
That’s because he is typical abuser. Most of them are sweet in public and showing their true nature in home. Have you read thousands of those stories? How women say that no one could believe that their husbands were such monsters because they were so sweet? If you would go and work for Gibson in his house he would probably treat you the same he did with Okcana. Nothing will help him. Because he is not sick. That’s his nature. That is what he thinks. All those murderers in jail – they are not sick. They just don’t care when they kill. He will find himself another girlfriend and will continue to abuse her.
“Even with all he`s had he`s still not happy” AWWWWWWWW, Poor entitled,Spoiled,narcissistic,dangerous,Crazy as hell Mel Gibson.
Honestly, my husband’s ex-wife is a spin-meister at making him look like the monster. I have helped him and my step-son for seven years. Sometimes he wants to yell at her like this, there is a line though and even though Mel crossed it, everyone should take a good look at the entire story before being quick to judge.
Now THAT makes sense. There is more to this whole sordid affair and trust me, the broad ain’t no innocent in this. I still believe she set him up.
Set him up…yeah, she forced him to hit her in the face and crack her teeth while holding his child and then admit it.
Seriously the gall of some people. Catherine you have no brain.
Fine. She set him up. Walk away don’t threaten to burn the house down.
Hey Catherine, I’d like to see how you’d react if someone punched you in the teeth–there is seriously something wrong with you, defending this monster. Or maybe you’re one of those women that likes being pushed around by men. You’re sick, babe.
And I’d like to hear the story from your hubby’s ex–you’re not exactly an objective observer, especially if you’re responsible for ending the marriage.
mr. glieberman,
while i realize you try to cushion your piece that compares mr. gibson’s psychotic breakdown with movies with cautious “i’m not trying to be glib” remarks, i find you do not succeed. your piece struggles to contain the sheer film buff fascination that you have and manages to glamorize a very ill’s man abuse. this is not travis bickle, this is a sickened man that is criminally trying to destroy a woman.
Why do you believe Oksana? I saw pictures of her mouth. There was no bruising on her lips–she even had on lipstick–it seemed to me that she simply removed caps, or some kind of covering. She said he knocked out her teeth, there were no missing teeth.